Your Happiness Factor

  How To Grow And Deepen New Friendships I found a great site on how to make friends and develop your social skills.   SucceedSocially.com is a collection of articles related to improving social skill and making friendships. It deals with shyness, and working around the problems that come from feeling that you do not fit comfortably into the norm.   Here is an extract of the writing on that site; it is about deepening and strengthening new friendships. "Just spend more time together I'll break this down further soon, but simply spending more time with someone is the backbone of becoming better friends with them. A close relationship isn't something that happens in a few hours. You need time to get to know the other person, have fun together, and become more comfortable with each other. You need time for all the relationship-enhancing things I mention below to happen. Additionally, it usually takes a while before we start thinking of someone as a

Overcoming loneliness To feel lonely is to be overwhelmed by an unbearable feeling of separateness, at a very deep level. From our earliest childhood, as awareness of our separateness dawns on us, the need to seek relationships begins. We need other people throughout our lives. And all of us, at various times, may feel anxious, abandoned, unloved and insecure. In other words, when we feel lonely. It's possible to overcome loneliness, if you really want to. But it will take time and energy. You will need to think about why you feel this way and what steps you can take to overcome it. Learning to be alone Are you someone who panics when left alone? Do you feel an overwhelming need to seek others out just to avoid inner loneliness? Then, you might need to spend sometime learning to feel relaxed in your own company. But it will mean facing difficult feelings that you've been trying to avoid. You may need to focus to on what kind of person you really are, and wh

Most of us loose confidence when we lose a job.   It’s not just about losing the income but it affects your image of yourself!   Many of us value ourselves based on our work.   For many of us work is the place where we spend the most of our waking life.   It’s often where we find our friends and make our major achievements.   So when we lose a job we feel we lose part of ourselves and we grieve for it. But you can get over it – just like any grief.   You are much more than your job and your real friends and family value you for much more than your salary even when they are dependent upon it. Now is the time to go to work on anew project and that new is very special because it is you! Here are some points for you to consider! Understand this happened If you have been made redundant then remember it’s not personal – you were just unlucky! Plus it makes you part of a very large and growing club.   If you lost your job for other reasons then make sure you understand why and learn fro

Many of us struggle with the thought of making new friends when we leave home or move to a n ew place.  Here are some pointers to help you on your way! Be yourself Real friends will like you for who you are, not who you try to be! If you put on an act when you first meet, then you will have to go on playing a part.  Given time the other person will realise you were acting and be very disappointed.  It may well mean you then lose a devloping friendship Spend more time around with other people You are not going to meet people sitting at home reading a book or, dare I say it, sitting in front of a computer. Go to places where you can meet other people – even a trip to the supermarket can bring you into contact with others. Join an organisation with common interests You don't have to have a lot of common interests with people in order to make friends with them. But finding a common interest can be a way to make friends.  You can use the internet or your local library to find gr