Your Happiness Factor

How to Feel More Positive: In today’s world, it can be tough to stay positive. There are so many things that can bring us down, from the news to our own personal problems. But it’s important to remember that we have the power to choose how we feel. We can choose to focus on the negative, or we can choose to focus on the positive.  My new post on my WiseWolf Coaching blog  https://wisewolfcoaching.com/how-to-feel-more-positive/   Wendy Mason Smith is a Life Coach, Career   Coach, Writer and Mentor to some very special people. You can contact her, book a  free coaching session, or find out more by phoning her at 44 (0) 7867681439 or following this link . Wendy has written a little eBook on how to get on with your boss and a book on job search - you can find her books on Amazon at Wendy's Amazon page  

Someone once told me a story. A woman had been living a miserable life. Her husband was a  bully who tried to control her completely. Over the years her creative spirit slowly eroded away. She couldn't see how she would ever be happy. How could she find the confidence to leave and make another life?  One of the few joys in her life, was her cat.  The family lived in small flat in a large city. Husband insisted they kept the cat inside. The cat seems healthy enough but the woman noticed she never purred. Circumstances changed and they moved to a new flat. It was much larger, light and airy. There were two balconies. The woman loved the new place and so, apparently, did the cat. One day the woman heard a new sound - her silent cat had begun to purr. And the purring became a habit. With more freedom, light and fresh air, the cat was much happier. It took the woman a little longer to find her happiness. But one day she met someone who inspired and supported ...

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You don’t always have to be happy, but…! Wendy Mason  is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you to solve difficult problems at work and at home. Thinking about the D-day anniversary later this week has led me to think about my parents’ generation; the people who lived through the Second World War.   We tend to remember the heroic! Many, of course, were not heroic in the way we usually think about heroes.  But, ordinary people, I suspect on all sides, were stoic and what mattered most was getting through. Many did get through very hard times. For them, personal happiness was secondary: what mattered was to do your duty. Times have changed! Not least because the generation that got through that war wanted better for their children. They wanted their kids to be happy. If they were not, what had the war been about?   Their kids were the Boomer Generation; my generation! Whatever you think of us now, most of us did start out w...

Looks can be deceiving: learning has no expiration date  Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at  http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos Everyone makes mistakes. If there's someone who performs 'perfectly' and does everything flawlessly as far as you see, believe me, they make mistakes behind the scenes. Or have made a mistake in the past that has thrust them to where they are now. No one is faultless. It's great when someone seems 'perfect' but underneath they might be a mess. Looks can be deceiving. Never has a phrase been so true and applicable in every situation. You can never tell how someone is feeling. My 'beautiful strangers' belief strikes again. We can never tell how something that we do will affect...

All of us! Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at  http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos You may not think it, but everybody hurts at some point during their life. Maybe that’s why they’re so successful at what they’re doing now. Everything may look pristine on the surface but not so on the inside. There’s no saying how another person is feeling throughout a day; they could just be putting on a brave face to get through it. We are all different. We can’t feel the same way about a particular situation. We won’t and that’s Ok. How boring would it be if everyone’s reaction was the same? We all have a limited, stunted and incomplete point of view on life. Yes, that’s right, everyone has. We are all facing situations in our lives, be they...

No rewinds! Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at  http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos Happiness can be yours. It’s within reach. You just need to convince your mind that it’s possible.  This is easier said than done, but possible.  Happiness is not something that can be found in big bundles. It’s about the moments. Small as they are. Apparently the present moment lasts for 3 seconds before it is wisped away and becomes a memory.  Life is not easy for anyone. Perhaps I’m naïve thinking that happiness is available to everyone. But I believe it is. When you think about it, every situation you have encountered; a form of it has appeared in everybody else’s life too. Maybe not at the same velocity or with th...

There are no rewinds in life. Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at  http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos There are no rewinds in life. So it makes it intense to get everything right first time. But everybody has something they still need to ‘perfect’ or for use of a better word, make right.  Everyone messes up, though they may be good at hiding it.  If you have a plan, you can’t always stick to it. There are detours and interruptions that this life will give you and we may never get back to the place we left from, again. But that’s Ok.  The worst thing in life is standing still.  When it’s rushing by I know that we all complain that it’s going too fast but at least you are moving forward, with eve...

If you have to fight for something you have no reason to give up.  Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at  http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos When the referee blows the full time whistle you have my permission to give up.  My point is no one has a referee with a whistle to blow full time in this life. Everyone has highs, everyone has lows. Who are you to think your lows are worse than anyone else’s?  Of course good things come to an end, and they have to so you can learn to appreciate them. The good times account for memories: sometimes that’s the best part of being alive because you know that things can only get better.  Of course there will be moments of heart ache and you will go through hard times...

Other People And Their Expectations Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at  http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos You shouldn’t not do something just because it’s been marred by other people. They don’t know what you’ve been through and they don’t know where you’re going. Other people’s opinions are rated highly. Why? We don’t know them. We don’t know their story. They’ll only be a passing stranger in your story; don’t let them have the power of deciding what you do.  Other people are so over-preoccupied with their own issues that they don’t notice your faults as much as you think they do. As a human race, we are selfish in that way. So don’t ever be too hard on yourself.  Most of the time you’ll find that y...

If you try to get somewhere! Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at  http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos If you try to get somewhere, I can’t promise you’ll get anywhere fast, but if you’re trying you will eventually get there. It might not be where you set off to get to, but that’s ok because plans change their course throughout our lives so we never really know where we’re headed anyway.  Your journey may take many unprecedented twists and turns, but will always lead you to the right circumstance. You may fall many times, but the true power lies in the strength that you can maintain to get back up and keep going. I could go down the negative perspective to try to get you to see that negativity is not the way to go, but w...

You Gain Strength Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at  http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos There will be times when situations look and feel negative. We can’t help it. It’s human nature.  For a moment, just pull yourself out of the situation and think about it. Try to steer your thoughts in a positive direction. It isn’t easy to stop doubting yourself for any reason, but it is so worth it when you do. It’s a hard habit to break. But once you start thinking positively more positive things will happen in your life. It isn’t an immediate response though. You just have to believe that the more positive you think, the more positive the outcomes of your endeavours will be. It’s not going to be an overnight phenomenon. Sadl...

You are not alone Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at  http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos If life is a like a roulette wheel, you can’t choose what position you are placed in. But you can work yourself into a place. If you want it bad enough, you can do it. That has always been a fact of life. You may not get it perfect first time, although you want to, but you will get to where you want to be.  Life contains a lot of try and fail experiments, you may fail a million times but it only takes one second to change and a doorway will open in which you can succeed. Never stop chasing that dream, because you never know. And if you don’t try, you’ll never know. So don’t give up at the first hurdle, because it only takes a minute...

Different! We are all idiosyncratic! Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at  http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos  We are all idiosyncratic, which is just a big word for a bit different. We all have stories to tell and how we choose to portray ourselves says a lot about who we are. We all have different stories.  If we all had the same struggles and issues how boring would that make life? I know sometimes it’s frustrating that people won’t or can’t understand what you’re going through. But that’s all right. They are living out their story with their own obstacles to overcome.                        ...

Work-Life Balance - Work Is Also Life Another perspective! Speaking at the Alumni meet of the INSIGHT 2012 Business Leadership Program, Sadhguru answers a question on work-life balance. Sadhguru reminds us that work and life are not different. Instead of "working" five days a week and "living" two days a week, it is better to live seven days a week he says. For more information on INSIGHT 2013, visit  http://ishainsight.org/

Staying Positive When Things Hurt! Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at  http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos  You don’t have to feel A-OK to be positive or feel happy. It’s Ok to get down sometimes. Makes you appreciate the highs when they come! I was in hospital having just had an operation and I was out four days later! I’m not super-woman; it did hurt for a little while but as soon as I put the pain to the back of my mind and focused on being happy the hurt subsided. I know this can’t work every time. As I’m due to have an operation later this month, I was just lucky it did work for me.  Just keep reminding yourself that people go through tougher things every day. Helped me anyway. People go through pain every day, a...