Your Happiness Factor

Time for Change A time to make changes The college year is starting and the gears are winding up at work. All of this means September is a great time for making changes and fresh starts. Making a fresh start is not easy, but it is possible, specially with the help of a life coach. Anyway, if you are ready to make your change, here are some tips to help you make a fresh start. Tips for making a fresh start Get rid of negative influences. This could include people, places, or things that are holding you back. Think about it. You know where the blockers and negativity is hiding. Surround yourself with positive people. Spend time with people who support your goals and who make you feel good about yourself. Take care of yourself. This means eating healthy, exercising, and getting enough sleep. When you take care of yourself, you have more energy and focus to make positive changes in your life. Be patient Be patient and forgiving of other people and yourself. Everyone makes mistakes. Don...

Worrying: We all do it Worrying is an experience we all share. We all worry about things from time to time. However, for some people, worrying can become a problem that can interfere with their daily lives. Do you, or someone you love,  you find yourself worrying all the time. There are things you can do to reduce it. Here are a few tips. Tips to help you stop worry and feeling anxious What sets you off? What are y our triggers. What are the things that typically trigger your worrying? Once you know what your triggers are, you can start to make changes. You may be able to avoid them or you can develop coping mechanisms for dealing with them. Challenge your thoughts. When you start to worry, ask yourself if your thoughts are realistic. Are you really going to get fired from your job? Is your spouse really going to leave you? Chances are, your thoughts are not as realistic as they seem. Focus on the present moment. When you start to worry, take a few deep breaths and focus on the her...

Ghosting: What It Is and Why It's Unkind Ghosting is the act of ending all communication with someone without e xplanation. It can happen in any type of relationship, from romantic relationships to friendships to professional relationships. There are many reasons why people ghost.  Some people ghost because they are afraid of confrontation. Others do it because they don't want to hurt the other person's feelings. And still others do it because they are simply not interested in the relationship anymore. Whatever the reason, ghosting is always unkind. It leaves the other person feeling confused, hurt, and rejected. It can also make it difficult for them to move on from the relationship. Here are some of the reasons why ghosting is unkind: It is disrespectful. When you ghost someone, you are essentially telling them that their feelings are not important to you.  It is hurtful. Ghosting can be very painful for the person who is being ghosted. They may feel confused, rejected, a...

How to Feel More Positive: In today’s world, it can be tough to stay positive. There are so many things that can bring us down, from the news to our own personal problems. But it’s important to remember that we have the power to choose how we feel. We can choose to focus on the negative, or we can choose to focus on the positive.  My new post on my WiseWolf Coaching blog  https://wisewolfcoaching.com/how-to-feel-more-positive/   Wendy Mason Smith is a Life Coach, Career   Coach, Writer and Mentor to some very special people. You can contact her, book a  free coaching session, or find out more by phoning her at 44 (0) 7867681439 or following this link . Wendy has written a little eBook on how to get on with your boss and a book on job search - you can find her books on Amazon at Wendy's Amazon page  

Energy Drainers - how to deal with them Are you going through some  kind of change or just going through a difficult period? You will probably find it drains your energy!  You have to deal with confusion, your own, and you may have to deal with other people’s, anxieties.  You may find yourself giving out lots of your energy in support of others.  But some people seem to take just a little too much – more than you can afford to give if you are going to stay fit and cope with all that might be ahead of you. We all feel particularly insecure in the middle of life changes.  But energy drainers are usually people who are insecure and negative in their everyday life!   Quite often they find it difficult to tolerate their own company. You may find people like this start to depend upon you to help them make all kinds of relatively simple life decisions.  They may phone or text you several times a day on any pretext – they can eat you, as well as y...

Self-awareness is a great help if you wish to live your best possible life. The ability to understand your own thoughts, feelings, and motivations. It is a key skill for success in all parts of your of life; from relationships to work and above all to personal development. There are many ways to increase self-awareness. Here are a few tips Pay attention to your thoughts and feelings. Throughout the day, take a few minutes to reflect on what you are thinking and feeling. What are you reacting to? Why? What us going on underneath in terms of your motivations? Journaling is a great way to track your thoughts and feelings. You can also use journaling to explore your values, goals, and dreams. Talk to a trusted friend or a life coach like me. Talking to someone else can help you gain a different perspective on yourself. Take a personality test. Personality tests, like Myers Briggs, can help you identify your strengths and weaknesses, as well as your preferred ways of thinking and behaving. ...