Your Happiness Factor

   Image via Wikipedia In  Mark Rashid 's book  Life Lessons from a Ranch Horse , he, the teacher, becomes the student when a nondescript, seven-year-old horse steps into his life. Mark is a famous horse trainer,  who is known for listening to them and working with them in a non-confrontational manner. So this "different" horse arrives and Mark  has to re-evaluate everything he think he knows about horses and himself, as a trainer and as a person. Beginning with an untimely balk from Buck, who never falters, Mark tries to find out why it happened.  He draws on the full range of his experience from Native American teaching to Japanese martial arts, Gradually he begins to understand the horse and how he thinks.  What he learns makes up the story of the book! He comes to believe that Buck, an everyday horse, has the ability to plan ahead and make choices in a consistent manner! This book will change how y...

Image via Wikipedia Coping with life’s problems successfully needs you to have realistic expectations. Psychologists call these expectations, and the judgements you make based on them, ‘appraisals’.  Things that happen to us aren’t a problem unless we judge them to be. Life is never perfect and problems, are a part of normal, everyday life. If our judgements (appraisals) are realistic, we’re much better able to deal with them and not let them throw us off-balance. The appraisals we make come from our belief system. If we hold unrealistic beliefs, then our judgements may not be the best for the situation. Sometimes we have unrealistic beliefs about what we must or should do.  We want to be “perfect”.  “Everyone must like me “or “I’ve got to be good at everything” for example. If you think about these for a minute, they are irrational beliefs. Who do you know who could really achieve them? Another approach! ...