Hanging Onto Stars

Hanging Onto Stars

Here is another post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Stephanie's first video on YouTube  

There is nothing wrong with hanging onto things. Be they people, ideas, memories or something else. But one day there will come a time when you need to ask why. Why you’re holding onto someone when they obviously won’t change, why you are holding onto that particular idea, why you want that memory to repeat or why you’re holding onto the particular product? And your answer will most likely be ‘Just in case.’

What I recommend for moving forward instead of backwards or standing still, when hanging onto people and/or memories is to believe and confirm to yourself (either out loud or silently) that you deserve better. The male/female in question has either betrayed your trust/love in some way or is about to. You deserve better than this. You know you do. You’re just scared to admit and believe it because of your fear of being let down. As in my last post about fears, it is these things that often us doing what we want to. Don’t let that be the case, if you have an idea: write it down. You’ll never know if years into the future, you’ll need it. Or you might laugh at your actions from so long ago, but you may need that release. So do it now. Don’t leave it for tomorrow. You never know what could happen tomorrow. Don’t let time have the benefit of risk.

I have been through this personally recently. And it was a bit of holding onto someone mixed with holding onto a memory. It didn’t do me any good. And holding onto our history was dragging me backwards when I should have been moving forwards. I’ve learnt during this time that it’s dangerous to not let go of things, not just for me but for the rest of my life and others around me. By not letting go of this one thing, I was keeping more and more to myself than ever and it felt like I was trapped, and it can’t have been too pretty to watch either. One day I had had enough of being so contrived and secluded in my own world, so I did the obvious get-over-him things by writing his name on a piece of paper and ripping it up until I couldn’t even make the letters of his name anymore and forgetting the intimate time we had shared. This took a little longer, admittedly and I went out and made memories without him to sustain the background of my mind, but finally I got there. 

While everything may seem like it’ll never work out, I can tell you for a fact that it will work out. Whether it’s for better or worse is usually dictated by your state of mind, so be positive about life’s rollercoaster ride. Sometimes we are in a dune so deep that we can’t see the light, but please remember that the dune is only sand and one day it will succumb to the sea.

Stephanie Carfrae, Creative Writing Graduate. Find her blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and her video introduction at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nSHqG-DOMK0