Your Happiness Factor

Today, we have another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Stephanie's  first video on  YouTube   Doesn’t it just feel like all your problems are weighing you down?  Well the good news is this is just temporary. Although it feels like it will go on forever, I assure you it won’t.  In months, years, a decade you’ll be looking back and asking yourself why did you think that was so hard? Why did you let that stop you? And it’ll either be because things have toppled on top of that, and you have learnt to deal with it or all the issues of those days have disappeared.  And you’ll be glad you’ve been through it. Either because it’s taught you how to deal with problems for the future when they appear, or you’ll be so thankful that that was then and this is now. You will be better equipped to fight off a similar issue,

Grow into a stronger person Today, we have another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Stephanie's  first video on  YouTube   When I come across roadblocks/setbacks/obstacles I know I have 3 options:  Give up  Give in Give it everything I’ve got.  It would be easy to give up, but if I didn’t struggle on where would all my stories come from? Because what hurts so bad today could be made better tomorrow. You never know what could happen.  So don’t do something silly that you might regret later and/or would hurt your loved ones. I admit in those hormonal teenage years I used to think about packing it all in, but I could never do it. And do you know why that was? It was because I couldn’t bear to see someone I cared about lonely. I still know this person and I don’t care for them in the same way as I did, but I’l

We Are All Being Brave - Judgements Today, a new and inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Stephanie's  first video on  YouTube   We are all being brave. We are all fighting our own battles. Whether physically visible or not, we have all thought about packing it in at one time or another. One quote I like to remember is ‘If you are lucky enough to be different, stay that way’. I think it is true, because everybody is offering something different in life. Everyone has a different attitude, opinion, way of life etc. (the list is countless) so that is why I think it is a poor choice that we judge. Someone could just be having a really bad day and your comments could lower their self-esteem. Do your best not to do that to that person.  Everyone has issues (the list of issues they could have is endless). I was caug

When you need to believe in you! Here is another post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Stephanie's  first video on  YouTube   There is always someone worse off than you, even if you think you’re the unluckiest person for a day, someone goes through their whole life as the ‘unluckiest.’  The same can be said for a black sheep.  You don’t want to be a black sheep all your life but you’re too afraid to go for it with someone, or talk to someone, get your voice heard etc. I know how you feel believe me I’ve been there. But I’m not afraid anymore. And d’you know why? Because I believe in myself.  It’s not something that just happens overnight. I do sometimes still have to persuade myself that I am worth it etc. because at the end of the day I am the only one who can catch myself when I fall, or stand up and say ‘I made that

Keep Holding On - Behind The Clouds, The Sun Still Shines! Here is another post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Stephanie's  first video on  YouTube   It’s hard to be patient. But as one of my favourite quotes goes ‘’Things are happening behind the scenes, if not visible on the surface.”  So when you feel the rollercoaster of life has broken down for you, and you’re watching everyone else fly past you (or that’s what it feels like) know that it is just taking a breather to make things better in your life.  When there’s nothing going on in your life, just know that something is making its way to you.  When everything is going on in your life, you forget about the little things that troubled you. For instance, I entered a competition and the end date was the day I moved into university for my first year. Now I forgot all ab

You have to be able to make yourself happy.  Here is another post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Stephanie's  first video on  YouTube   A lot of exciting things have happened to me this week!  And good things might not come in hordes or bundles, they might be one at a time but that will make you appreciate them for what they are more at the time!  If you want good things to happen, understand that they won’t all happen at once! Life doesn’t work like that.  Only one good thing actually happened for me this week, but because of that I got to re-live one of my best memories on my blog! So I made it into ‘a lot of things’.  And that’s what you have to do sometimes. Y ou have to be able to make yourself happy.  When there’s not much going on, you need to be able to make yourself smile. Find a book you can lose yourself in or a

  Most of the time we don’t think about how we think!  We just do it. Thoughts seem to drift in and drift out again without much intervention from us. And most of the time we are happy that way! But sometimes our thoughts do not make us happy.  Negative thoughts can make us feel miserable and very unhappy.  Our thoughts may keep us awake at night and they can intrude into our days.  They can make us feel angry and sad.  Sometimes the thoughts in our head leave us with unpleasant and uncomfortable feelings about ourselves, the people about us and the world in general.      Our thoughts can mean we focus on the negative even when there is very strong evidence that we are, and everything about us is, basically OK. Over the next few posts here, we are going to explore some ways that we think negatively and how you might be able to make some changes. Here are my first three ways of thinking negatively; “overgeneralising”, “labelling” and “personal