Your Happiness Factor

Your Emotions – When You Feel Hurt! When you feel hurt you are usually responding to what you see as an injustice. Usually you feel hurt when you feel something isn’t fair - someone has let you down or treated you in a way you feel is not right. Often, when you feel hurt you will withdraw from the person who has hurt you and stop all communication with them. Others might see this as resentment or aloofness and some see you as sulking. Please don't Sulk! Sulking can be silent sulking or it might be angry, noisy sulking with the slamming of doors and much huffing and puffing. Sometimes you just snipe at someone close to you without saying why.  "Surely, if he loved me enough He would know why!" Often behavior like this is about getting even or punishing – at the very least you want an apology. But sulking rarely achieves the outcome that you want. It can make you more miserable than the person you believe has transgressed. Overcom...

Sitting Quietly With Zen A new version of an older post. Find a quiet place to sit. This can be outside or in.  Take some gentle breaths to calm your mind. Don't look for meaning; just sit, just accept. Remember that from a withered tree, a flower blooms. Simple living is consolation. Before enlightenment; chop wood, carry water. After enlightenment; chop wood, carry water. The tighter you squeeze, the less you have. No snowflake ever falls in the wrong place. Only when you can be extremely pliable and soft can you be extremely hard and strong. Knock on the sky and listen to the sound. When you try to stay on the surface of the water, you sink; but when you try to sink, you float. Sit, walk, or run, but don't wobble. Live your life. Sitting quietly, doing nothing, spring comes, and the grass grows by itself. The Heart Sutra - A musical rendition by Imee Ooi with words in Sanskrit Wendy Mason is a life...

Are you feeling stuck in the maze? When I talk to new life coaching clients the most common words I hear are;  “Can you help please? I feel stuck". It usually makes me think of someone lost in a maze surrounded by high hedges with no idea how to go forward or back. And sadly most have forgotten exactly how they got here. They are well and truly stuck. It doesn’t feel good to be stuck in a maze where all paths seem to lead nowhere. Of course, it is an illusion. There is a way to the centre and back again out into the wider world if you can get up high enough to see or you have a map. And that is I suppose what working with a life coach is about.  Finding a way to get up high, taking the broader perspective, or at least a different one, working out where you want to be in the big wide world and making a plan. Climbing that ladder or getting into the helicopter on your own can be frightening.  You need confidence to do it.  And when yo...

How to make new friends - make a deep connection! All you have to do is to open up to other people and engage them emotionally. When you open up to them and engage them in a conversation with real feeling -- they will quickly feel deeply connected with you. That's one of the ways to make friends. In just minutes after meeting them, you can t urn you and me into us.  Show a real interest,  Ask questions about them,  Find things you both care about,  Share your interest! Guess what -now you have a friend. Wendy is the The Career Coach - helping you to find fresh perspectives on your Job Search and Career. She helps you work towards your goals and aspirations, in a way that fits in with both work and home life. Email her at  wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com ,  find her on Skype at wendymason14, or call +44 (0) 2081239146 (02081239146 for UK callers) or +1 262 317 9016 if you are in the US. A free trial/consultation allows you to try ...

What is personal development? Personal development is a way that you can develop yourself; sometimes alone, sometimes with support from others. Personal development can help you identity and develop your talents and potential. You can improve your career opportunities, enhance the quality of your life and contribute to the realization of your dreams and aspirations. What is Personal Development ? Personal development includes ; understanding yourself as an individual building your self-image and self-esteem developing strengths or talents improving your opportunities in the job market – your career identifying or improving your potential enhancing your quality of life and relationships improving health and social abilities fulfilling aspirations and dreams developing and carrying out personal development plans What is Personal Development? Personal development enables you to; Expect to succeed Take risks and set challenging goals Keep trying, if a...

Feel the energy in your own healing hands Here is a simple guide to allow you to feel your own energy in under a minute. And , yes, it does work, quite remarkably. Wh ether you would like to practice reiki, qi gong, re-connective , spiritual or any other type of healing you are tapping into a universal source that is available to anyone . so why not see if you can feel it too? This is a really interesting little video from  http://balancedyou.co.uk   Wendy Mason is a career coach.  She helps people reach their goals and aspirations, without sacrificing their home and personal life.  Before working as a coach, Wendy had a long career in both the public and private sectors in general management and consultancy as well as spells in HR.  She now divides her time between coaching and writing. You can contact Wendy at  wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com  and find out more at  http://wisewolfcoaching.com Related articles Care...

Can You Find Your Time Management Fairy? Time management can be fun.  Here is a short light-hearted look at time management with some useful lessons.   You can be your own time management fairy! Wendy Mason is a career coach.  She helps people reach their goals and aspirations, without sacrificing their home and personal life.  Before working as a coach, Wendy had a long career in both the public and private sectors in general management and consultancy as well as spells in HR.  She now divides her time between coaching and writing. You can contact Wendy at  wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com  and find out more at  http://wisewolfcoaching.com Related articles How to Deal with a Flirtatious Coworker! Inspiring Quotes on Courage Are you shy? Learn how to make friends in new situations. The Ten Pillars for Emotional Resilience

The Friday Recipe - Grilled Halibut With Nectarine Salsa Something nice for dinner!  Fruit and fish are such a healthy, delicious combo. Try this quick and easy recipe from Liesl at  http://www.lieslicious.com/ ... it's sure to impress! Wendy Mason is a career coach.  She helps people reach their goals and aspirations, without sacrificing their home and personal life.  Before working as a coach, Wendy had a long career in both the public and private sectors in general management and consultancy as well as spells in HR.  She now divides her time between coaching and writing. You can contact Wendy at  wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com  and find out more at  http://wisewolfcoaching.com Related articles How to Deal with a Flirtatious Coworker! Inspiring Quotes on Courage Are you shy? Learn how to make friends in new situations. The Art of Feminine Presence - a quick, easy exercise for you Will Smith On The Law Of Attractio...

The Art of Feminine Presence - a quick, easy exercise for you Rachael Jayne Groover, author of the book "Powerful and Feminine" quick and easy exercise to increase your personal presence immediately, so you can walk into any room and attract the attention you want Wendy Mason is a career coach.  She helps people reach their goals and aspirations, without sacrificing their home and personal life.  Before working as a coach, Wendy had a long career in both the public and private sectors in general management and consultancy as well as spells in HR.  She now divides her time between coaching and writing. You can contact Wendy at  wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com  and find out more at  http://wisewolfcoaching.com Related articles How to Deal with a Flirtatious Coworker! Winning Friends In A Crisis - How To Manage Communications When Things Go Wrong! Inspiring Quotes on Courage Are you shy? Learn how to make friends in new situations. Wil...

Remember Happiness Is A State, Not A Circumstance - Inspirational Video -The 9 Timeless Secrets of Being Happy  Inspirational video presenting the nine timeless secrets of being happy by Brian Vaszily, author of the No1 international bestselling motivational book, The 9 Intense Experiences. Watching this a great way to lift your mood. Links to his books and products below   Wendy Mason is a career coach.  She helps people reach their goals and aspirations, without sacrificing their home and personal life.  Before working as a coach, Wendy had a long career in both the public and private sectors in general management and consultancy as well as spells in HR.  She now divides her time between coaching and writing. You can contact Wendy at  wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com  and find out more at  http://wisewolfcoaching.com Related articles Confidence and the well equipped leader Inspiring Quotes on Courage Are you shy? Lear...