Your Happiness Factor

Your Emotions – When You Feel Hurt! When you feel hurt you are usually responding to what you see as an injustice. Usually you feel hurt when you feel something isn’t fair - someone has let you down or treated you in a way you feel is not right. Often, when you feel hurt you will withdraw from the person who has hurt you and stop all communication with them. Others might see this as resentment or aloofness and some see you as sulking. Please don't Sulk! Sulking can be silent sulking or it might be angry, noisy sulking with the slamming of doors and much huffing and puffing. Sometimes you just snipe at someone close to you without saying why.  "Surely, if he loved me enough He would know why!" Often behavior like this is about getting even or punishing – at the very least you want an apology. But sulking rarely achieves the outcome that you want. It can make you more miserable than the person you believe has transgressed. Overcom...

How to make new friends - make a deep connection! All you have to do is to open up to other people and engage them emotionally. When you open up to them and engage them in a conversation with real feeling -- they will quickly feel deeply connected with you. That's one of the ways to make friends. In just minutes after meeting them, you can t urn you and me into us.  Show a real interest,  Ask questions about them,  Find things you both care about,  Share your interest! Guess what -now you have a friend. Wendy is the The Career Coach - helping you to find fresh perspectives on your Job Search and Career. She helps you work towards your goals and aspirations, in a way that fits in with both work and home life. Email her at  wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com ,  find her on Skype at wendymason14, or call +44 (0) 2081239146 (02081239146 for UK callers) or +1 262 317 9016 if you are in the US. A free trial/consultation allows you to try ...

Overcoming loneliness To feel lonely is to be overwhelmed by an unbearable feeling of separateness, at a very deep level. From our earliest childhood, as awareness of our separateness dawns on us, the need to seek relationships begins. We need other people throughout our lives. And all of us, at various times, may feel anxious, abandoned, unloved and insecure. In other words, when we feel lonely. It's possible to overcome loneliness, if you really want to. But it will take time and energy. You will need to think about why you feel this way and what steps you can take to overcome it. Learning to be alone Are you someone who panics when left alone? Do you feel an overwhelming need to seek others out just to avoid inner loneliness? Then, you might need to spend sometime learning to feel relaxed in your own company. But it will mean facing difficult feelings that you've been trying to avoid. You may need to focus to on what kind of person you really are, and wh...

I found this lovely video on YouTube.  It is wisdom in its purest form. T his clip is from his visit to Doon School in Dehradun, India, on October 28, 2011. The entire event can be viewed at  http://youtu.be/-3qC5YrfKjc  (www.dalailama.com) Wendy Mason is a career coach working mainly with professional women who want to make that jump to senior level while having a life outside work. Before working as a coach, Wendy had a long career in both the public and private sectors in general management and consultancy as well as spells in HR. She now divides her time between face to face coaching, and coaching and blogging on-line. You can contact Wendy at  wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com  and find out more at  http://wisewolfcoaching.com Email Wendy now at  wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com  for a  free half hour coaching session  by phone or Skype Coming shortly - the WiseWolf Career and Personal Development Programme - ...

Surviving a Breakup with Your Best Friend Two friends (Photo credit: Wikipedia ) Boyfriends, work, kids, life crises, cultural gaps— there are all kinds of reasons why female friendships end. Sometimes the reasons can be quite strange and very confusing. Whatever the cause, you can be left devastated and asking yourself lots of difficult questions. Was someone to blame? Was the friendship worth fighting for? How can I avoid this happening again? The saddest thing is that women going through this often have no one to confide in. Losing a husband or lover usually means there is lots of sympathy around. But broken friendships don't touch the same chords and it can make other friends feel uncomfortable – is the same thing going to happen between you and them? Irene Levine is a journalist and psychologist. In her book, Best Friends, s he offers compassionate advice on how to find your way through the issues and she offers suggestions on when to save a r...

Sue Plumtree is an executive life coach, workshop facilitator, speaker and an established author. Her second book, ‘Dancing With The Mask: Learning to Love and be Loved’ is available directly through her website  www.sueplumtree.com .  This is an extract from her interesting post on Women Unlimited . What is The Gremlin? The Gremlin is your inner dialogue, your inner critic, your critical chatterbox that goes on and on and on – 24/7 .  There are many names for it but the characteristics are the same whatever you call it. The gremlin is with you from the moment you wake to the moment you fall asleep. Your Gremlin wants to keep you safe Recognising and understanding your Gremlin is the most important thing you can do because your happiness depends on it.  The point of the Gremlin is partly to preserve the status quo as a way of keeping you safe.  It isn’t an evil voice but an ignorant one, determined to keep you small.  You will recognise your G...

Be Successful – Making A Personal Change – Part 6 Change Your Core Beliefs | WiseWolf Talking - the Wisewolf Coaching Blog There is a new post on WiseWolf Talking that you might enjoy! You can change those core beliefs we all carry. They get in the way when we want to make a personal change that will improve our lives.  We all carry unhelpful beliefs about ourselves, about other people and about the world about us. We gather them up as we go through life from our parents, our teachers, others about us and from things that happen to us. We learn to think, for example, that we are lazy or stupid. May be we think we are bad people, unworthy of happiness or success; or that people like us just never succeed! Most of these belief are not founded in anything real but we go on believing. We may have failed at something once but that doesn’t mean we will not succeed this time or that we are less worthy of happiness. You can read more at the link below Be Successful – M...

Happiness is... Did we lose something along the way?  Want to join me finding it again? Wendy Mason is a career coach working mainly with professional women who want to make that jump to senior level while having a life outside work. Before working as a coach, Wendy had a long career in both the public and private sectors in general management and consultancy as well as spells in HR. She now divides her time between face to face coaching, and coaching and blogging on-line. You can contact Wendy at  wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com  and find out more at  http://wisewolfcoaching.com Email Wendy now at  wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com  for a free half hour coaching session by phone or Skype Coming shortly - the WiseWolf Career and Personal Development Programme - if you would like to know more email  wendymason @wisewolfcoaching.com Related articles Are You A Lark or An Owl? Understand Your Body Clock! A little re...

 (Photo credit: Wikipedia ) There are many claims for the health benefits of wheatgrass from providing a useful food supplement to curing various deseases. The benfits of wheatgrass were first discovered by Charles F Schnabel, an agricultural chemist. He used fresh cut grass in an attempt to nurse some dying hens back to health. The hens not only recovered, but they produced eggs at a higher rate than healthy hens. Encouraged by his results, he began drying and powdering grass for his family and neighbors to supplement their diets. The following year, Schnabel reproduced his experiment and achieved the same results. Hens consuming rations supplemented with grass doubled their egg production. Schnabel's research was conducted with wheatgrass grown outdoors in Kansas Among other things, it has been claimed that wheatgrass helps blood flow , digestion and general detoxification of the body. But these claims have not yet been proved.  Wheatgrass contains no wheat gluten. ...

I came across this lovely, quirky little video on YouTube.  So take a break, kick off your shoes, listen to the music and be inspired. Wendy Mason is a Life and Career Coach.  She helps people have the confidence they need to be successful at work and to change career while maintaining a good work/life balance. You can email her at wendymason @wisewolfcoaching.com

I'm fascinated by the colour Turquoise and so I was very interested to find this little article on the web.  I hope you enjoy it too The Colour Turquoise The meaning of the colour turquoise is open communication and clarity of thought. Turquoise helps to open the lines of communication between the heart and the spoken word. It presents as a friendly and happy color enjoying life. In color psychology, the color turquoise controls and heals the emotions creating emotional balance and stability.... More at this link  The Color Turquoise