Your Happiness Factor

Getting to know people and making assumptions Most of us encounter lots of other people all the time in our everyday life.  We pass them in the street. We sit in the same cinema, or  work in the same building. And some among them, we actually start to acknowledge and get to know. We begin to recognise their faces, the shapes of their bodies and how they move. We start to make assumptions about them, usually based on our very first encounter with them. In fact most of us make up our minds in the first few seconds of the encounter. Based on the clothes they are wearing on that particular day and the expression of their face, we decide. Is this someone I am likely to trust and want to know better? And we act on what we think are the answers to those questions, based on our assumptions. What we are doing, of course, is taking a few stray facts and fitting them into our own patterns of belief. We base those beliefs; on what we were told by our parents and others whe...

Gestures and Body Language Tutorial A slightly frenetic but interesting introduction to body language - take it all with a pinch of salt, though! Wendy Mason is the Happiness Coach and author of a new novel,   The Wolf Project.   Wendy is a life and career coach and writer. She is passionate about helping people find happiness at work and at home! To find out more email  wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com , find her on Skype at wendymason14, or call +44 (0) 2081239146 (02081239146 for UK callers) or +1 262 317 9016 if you are in the US.   A free trial/consultation allows you to give phone coaching a real trial without any financial risk. And remember there are great benefits to be achieved from coaching by phone or Skype. CV review and interview preparation a speciality

Cropped screenshot of Marilyn Monroe and Cary Grant from the trailer for the film Monkey Business (Photo credit: Wikipedia ) When your partner is a flirt! Some people have outgoing personalities. They are extroverts and sometimes this can show itself as flirtatiousness. Being flirtatious is just part of who they are. It is the way they communicate with others. But, for many that is all it is – it doesn’t mean they are seriously interested in the person they flirt with. However, it can be difficult to be in a relationship with someone who has a very flirtatious personality, especially if you lack confidence or you are one of those unfortunate people who are prone to jealousy. If you do show signs of jealousy or disapproval, then a flirtatious partner will probably try to hide or conceal their actions. Which makes them uncomfortable and probably you less trusting. Sometimes in a group of friends, a flirtatious way of communicating with each other develops....

Image via Wikipedia Body language has a major part to play in how we communicate with others. People form a very quick first impression of us based on appearance and body language - the way we walk, smile, sit and stand. When we communicate,  this body language plays a major role – greater than the words we use or the tone of voice that we adopt. Once we understand the role that body language plays we can learn to shape the way that others see us.  Body language can help us project a confident image.  Being aware of our body language and knowing that we are projecting a confident image help us to feel more confident!  This supports us in dealing with others as our confidence grows. An understanding of body language allows us to communicate more effectively.  This is because with the right body language we can reinforce the message we wish to convey.   But also it helps us to understand much better the real meaning ...

   Image via Wikipedia In  Mark Rashid 's book  Life Lessons from a Ranch Horse , he, the teacher, becomes the student when a nondescript, seven-year-old horse steps into his life. Mark is a famous horse trainer,  who is known for listening to them and working with them in a non-confrontational manner. So this "different" horse arrives and Mark  has to re-evaluate everything he think he knows about horses and himself, as a trainer and as a person. Beginning with an untimely balk from Buck, who never falters, Mark tries to find out why it happened.  He draws on the full range of his experience from Native American teaching to Japanese martial arts, Gradually he begins to understand the horse and how he thinks.  What he learns makes up the story of the book! He comes to believe that Buck, an everyday horse, has the ability to plan ahead and make choices in a consistent manner! This book will change how y...