Your Happiness Factor

Your Emotions – When You Feel Hurt! When you feel hurt you are usually responding to what you see as an injustice. Usually you feel hurt when you feel something isn’t fair - someone has let you down or treated you in a way you feel is not right. Often, when you feel hurt you will withdraw from the person who has hurt you and stop all communication with them. Others might see this as resentment or aloofness and some see you as sulking. Please don't Sulk! Sulking can be silent sulking or it might be angry, noisy sulking with the slamming of doors and much huffing and puffing. Sometimes you just snipe at someone close to you without saying why.  "Surely, if he loved me enough He would know why!" Often behavior like this is about getting even or punishing – at the very least you want an apology. But sulking rarely achieves the outcome that you want. It can make you more miserable than the person you believe has transgressed. Overcom...

How to make new friends - make a deep connection! All you have to do is to open up to other people and engage them emotionally. When you open up to them and engage them in a conversation with real feeling -- they will quickly feel deeply connected with you. That's one of the ways to make friends. In just minutes after meeting them, you can t urn you and me into us.  Show a real interest,  Ask questions about them,  Find things you both care about,  Share your interest! Guess what -now you have a friend. Wendy is the The Career Coach - helping you to find fresh perspectives on your Job Search and Career. She helps you work towards your goals and aspirations, in a way that fits in with both work and home life. Email her at  wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com ,  find her on Skype at wendymason14, or call +44 (0) 2081239146 (02081239146 for UK callers) or +1 262 317 9016 if you are in the US. A free trial/consultation allows you to try ...

I'm fascinated by the colour Turquoise and so I was very interested to find this little article on the web.  I hope you enjoy it too The Colour Turquoise The meaning of the colour turquoise is open communication and clarity of thought. Turquoise helps to open the lines of communication between the heart and the spoken word. It presents as a friendly and happy color enjoying life. In color psychology, the color turquoise controls and heals the emotions creating emotional balance and stability.... More at this link  The Color Turquoise

Tuesday Quotes - Dealing With Criticism The artist doesn’t have time to listen to the critics. The ones who want to be writers read the reviews, the ones who want to write don’t have the time to read reviews. William Faulkner I think the criticism that I take to heart is from other writers that I respect. Steve Earle I'm easy to work with, not a pushover, but I respond to criticism and find it inspiring. Ben Elton Someone else’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality. Les Brown Any fool can criticize, condemn & complain.. and most fools do. Dale Carnegie Don't let anyone say you can't do it. John Ilhan Criticism is something you can easily avoid by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing. Aristotle Learning from criticism allows you to improve. Almost every critique gives you a tool to more effectively create the tomorrow you visualize. Tiny Budha No matter who says what, you should accept it with a smile and do your own work. Mo...

Time Management – Is It Working For You? My five earlier posts about Time Management; The Clock Is Ticking! How Good Are You At Time Management Time Management: Know Where Time Goes - Keep A Log Pinpointing Those Emotional Blocks to Change Time Management – Becoming Better Organized Find Your Prime Time said that the first five steps in managing time are;  To be clear about your purpose and your direction in life, To know how you spend your time To include an emotional element in your time management program. To become better organized. To find out when you work best. Now you need to make sure your new time management regime is working for you. If it is, you should notice the following improvements Increased energy, productivity and motivation A greater sense of control You are more decisive and pro-active You no longer take work problems home You are acting more assertively - procrastination and perfectionism ar...

Tibetan endless knot   (Photo credit: Wikipedia ) Find Your Spiritual Buzz With Beliefnet Beliefnet is a large and very up-beat multi-faith e-community that provides a forum for religious information and inspiration.  The site includes prayers, meditations, other spiritual tools,and discussion groups. Beliefnet provides information about the whole range of religious and spiritual beliefs from Christianity to Zoroastrianism . It interviews religious figures as well as offering articles and blogs on various creeds. Beliefnet has received a Webby as the best religion and spirituality site. And, as well as  information,  it offers  entertainme nt, eCards,  quizzes  and "Soulmatch".  Discussions are oriented toward specific groups of people, such as couples and teens with topics ranging from abortion to sexism, and dozens of religious faiths. Specific discussion boards exist to ask questions about religions and engage in ...

I have a most wonderful bay tree in my garden but I didn't know anything about Bay Leaf Tea until I found this lovely video from  Meghan Telpner. She has a fantastic website   http://www.meghantelpner.com/about/  and here she is speaking from St Lucia.  I don't think life can get any better....

  I found this useful and interesting post by Maura Kelly on the Marie Claire website! 4 Myths about Comforting Friends In two recent posts, I've talked about the advice grief educator Val Walker gives on   how to help friends who are dealing with the end of a relationship , whether from a breakup or the loss of a loved one. Those posts have focused mostly on   what to say . Now, let's talk about myths surrounding the art of comforting — and about a few things you should (and shouldn't) do if you want to help. Read more at  How To Comfort A Friend - Comforting Words For Friends - Marie Claire   Related articles Having a Bad Day - Tips For Dealing With Days When You Just Feel Down Be Successful - Making A Personal Change - Part 1 Admit A Change is Needed Are you stressed-out by your poor work-life balance?

Today we have a special guest post.  To make it really useful to you, it includes some very personal experience so on this occasion I'm not going to publish the name of the writer.  But she has my very grateful thanks. Public Speaking, Personal Confidence, and the ‘Shy Extrovert’ Forget chicken soup for the soul, one of the best cures for lack of confidence and some forms of depression could in fact be public speaking. Usually the benefits of becoming a competent public speaker are seen as advancing your career prospects or building your reputation, if you are in business! In fact it is seen as being good for any cause you want to promote. Public speaking is a ‘skill’ but I would like to propose that it can also be a great ‘medicine.’ Just as exercise is recommended for increasing serotonin levels in the brain, getting your mind and body to perform under pressure can also give you a high! As for me, well, I found that beating one of my worst nightmares was act...

Monday Quotes – Time Management Time is the scarcest resource and unless it is managed, nothing else will be managed. Peter F. Drucker You must master your time rather than becoming a slave to the constant flow of events and demands on your time. And you must organize your life to achieve balance, harmony, and inner peace. Brian Tracy I learned that we can do anything, but we can’t do everything.. at least not at the same time. So think of your priorities not in terms of what activities you do, but when you do them. Timing is everything Dan Millman Perhaps the very best question that you can memorize and repeat, over and over, is, “what is the most valuable use of my time right now?"  Brian Tracy Choose the time of day or night when your energies are highest and conduct business at that time. The Mafia Manager One cannot manage too many affairs: like pumpkins in the water, one pops up while you try to hold down the other. Chinese Proverb Time is a versatile perfor...

Networking can be very good for your health! Networking is good for you. So we are told all the time! You know already that you should network if you are looking for work and, oh yes, of course you must network if you are starting up a new business. But for some of us, the prospect of networking can be quite daunting. Now why should that be so? Let us think a little about networking and what it is really about.  Networking is about finding and building new relationships. It is about meeting new people and finding an opportunity to make an exchange, be it simply an exchange of friendship.  We go somewhere to meet someone new. We exchange information and then test out whether they are interesting to us and in return we hope to be interesting to them.  Most of us do it all the time in our private lives. But when it comes to networking for work, many of us feel much more diffident because we are not just looking for friendship.  We are hopin...